not disappointing myself - by Ava - bookbear express
ME: Listen. Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.
Cecily Brown, Be Nice to the Big Blue Sea, 2013 ME: Listen. Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself. Last night I woke up at 2:45 AM and reread Glennon Doyle and felt so touched by this paragraph. I’ve written a lot about how I fret about not doing the Right Thing—how I often succumb to the trap of optimization, the desire to perform for others. And there’s something about…
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