you might disappoint people (and that's okay) - by Isabel

a case against people-pleasing

This was the second essay in a 2-part series exploring friendship, connection and finding your people. You can read the first essay: same wavelength and a thread on why I wrote this series. Untitled by Francine Van Hove I’m pretty sure my life began when I became willing to disappoint people. I never categorized myself as a people-pleaser growing up (though the signs were there). I’ve always been stubborn, audacious, willing to stand up for what I believe in. But I only recently realized that these qualities reflect my personality, not my priorities. They do not determine how and why I put…

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