You can’t exist without causing damage - by Kasra
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You have to learn to be comfortable making people upset.
You have to learn to be comfortable making people upset. Let me grab you by the shoulders and yell that you have to learn to be comfortable with people being upset at you. If you live your life guided by an intense fear of people disliking you, you will become miserable. I’ve been getting better at this and you can too. It’s a fairly simple strategy: whenever you notice yourself flinching away from this interpersonal friction, you can instead run towards it. Oh god, I said no to this person, what are they gonna think—oh wait, this is good, this is an opportunity to embrace conflict. It…
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