People Lash Out When They're Sad
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Remind yourself to look for the cornered, fearful animal behind the angry words.
Burnt Umbrage (1997) by Dorothea Tanning Many people get angry and cast blame when they’re upset. I’m writing that down in plain language because it’s something I haven’t acknowledged adequately over the course of my life. I haven’t recognized it in myself often enough. I haven’t witnessed it through clear eyes with others. If you grew up in a household where it was common to yell at other people when you were sad but uncommon to stay in the same room and cry with other people and talk about why you were crying? You probably cast blame when you’re upset. If you grew up around people who…
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