Selfless Dating – Put A Number On It!
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What if you just modeled your partner well enough to do what they would want without needing to ask? And what if you tried this from the first date?
Selfless Relationships My last three posts talked about all the things wrong with dating today, from the narratives to the frameworks to the myriad ways you’re self-sabotaging your own romantic life. This post is about the opposite — how dating can go very very right. To me the best style of relationship is one where both partners treat the other’s real preferences with equal weight to their own, and make decisions on that basis and not based on pre-agreed rules. I call this ideal “selfless relationships”; others have arrived at similar ideas under many names. Note that
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