responsibility - by Ava - bookbear express

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Over time you come to understand a person you love as a complete story. How the facts of their daily existence—when they wake up, where they get coffee, the way they constantly lose their keys, the place they get their hair cut—connects with who they were at four, six, 12. The way their face and body have affected the way they move through the world. Who’s loved them and who’s left them. The little moments that hurt them. For me, so many love stories have started with a second of appraisal, an impression that became a conversation and then a feeling. And then weeks later I learned about the Lego set they got for Christmas when they were eight and they became a real person to me. The problem is, it’s hard to learn about somebody else’s story without getting altering it. Once someone loves you you become responsible for them.

Jane Freilicher, The Painting Table, 1954 Over time you come to understand a person you love as a complete story. How the facts of their daily existence—when they wake up, where they get coffee, the way they constantly lose their keys, the place they get their hair cut—connects with who they were at four, six, 12. The way their face and body have affected the way they move through the world. Who’s loved them and who’s left them. The little moments that hurt them. For me, so many love stories have started with a second of appraisal, an impression that became a conversation and then a…

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