flâneur

Zafin Hassan

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on the atlas — 29

highlights — 28

  • “I asked Bill, “So what makes for a great relationship?” And Bill said a great relationship is one where if you ask each person independently who benefits more from the relationship, they would each say, “Well, I do.” And I said, “Isn’t that a little bit of a selfish way to look at it?” And he said, “No. Let’s think about this for a minute, Jim. Let me ask you, who do you think benefits more from our relationship?” I said, “Clearly, I do.” And he said, “Isn’t that just great, because I would answer that I do.” Bill said, “See, the reason both people can answer that way is because both people a…
    Subtraction
  • “Even if you’ve made choices you wouldn’t make based on what you know now, you don’t deserve to feel inadequate, ashamed, unworthy, or inferior to anyone else. You don’t deserve the anguish of beating yourself up over the past, or the insatiable emptiness that comes from believing you’re fundamentally lacking. No matter where you’ve been, you deserve the opportunity to go where you’re going, less burdened by your own mind.”
    The Mountain
  • Rome wasn’t built in a day, but it was built one brick at a time.
    Seizing The Moment
  • You have to be smart enough to know you’re making progress without any obvious signs of progress.
    Seizing The Moment
  • That’s how results happen. Slowly and then all at once.
    Seizing The Moment
  • Hold on tightly and stay aboard.
    stamina - by Ava - bookbear express
  • Run your own race, as in: you set certain standards for yourself, and you focus on meeting them.
    run your own race - by Ava - bookbear express
  • If you’re forever looking around for validation, you’ll never be able to make anything that’s completely your own. Because you don’t even know what you think.
    run your own race - by Ava - bookbear express
  • I’m a broken record at this point when I say it’s all internal. From Animal by Lisa Taddeo: “It’s what you think you are missing inside of you. I promise that you are missing nothing.” Never anything. Not the guy, not the girl, not the love or approval. But I can’t convince you of that. It only comes when you realize that what you’re searching for in other people is never within them, it’s all within you, and that doesn’t make them less interesting—it makes them matter more, because for the first time you see them as they are, and they’re worth your attention still.
    interest without motive is really hard to fake - by Ava
  • Choose your art, practice your art, always, always choose your art over and above anything else. If you can’t do that, then you have—what, a few more years?”
    how to avoid half-heartedness - by Ava - bookbear express
  • If you can ask for more things, you’re way more likely to get things. And if you’ve already gotten some things, you probably should be asking for more things? That’s why I admire the two friends I mentioned above: they just go around asking for things, and it makes their life better. And I think the reason why they do that is because they have a secure sense of self that’s not going to be shaken up by hearing no.
    rejection (in)sensitivity - by Ava - bookbear express
  • Replit is the easiest place to start coding, build, deploy, and host apps, collaboratively.
    Replit: Remix the Internet - Not Boring by Packy McCormick
  • It was another clear step in Amjad’s personal quest to bring the power of software to more people around the world
    Replit: Remix the Internet - Not Boring by Packy McCormick
  • There's a part of me that so badly wants to do everything right. But what if no one can tell you what the right answer is? Then you have to listen to yourself. And what if you’re wrong? What if you can’t tell if you’re right or wrong? Then, I guess, you have to keep on living without reassurance or certainty.
    responsibility - by Ava - bookbear express
  • a couple years ago, I had a friend who I felt uncertain about being close with. There were things about them that made me—the best way to describe it is uncomfortable. I liked them, and we often had lots of fun together, but sometimes I felt uncomfortable around them. But they really, really wanted to be close friends with me. So I let the friendship continue. Many of my other close friends told me that I was making a mistake. In retrospect, I think they were right: I shouldn’t have let such an asymmetric relationship continue. I eventually broke it off, and I should have broken it off earlier…
    responsibility - by Ava - bookbear express
  • Is what I’m about to do a step toward or away from what’s important? ​
    Towards or Away
  • Life is an iterative and compounding game. In the words of Peter Kaufman, it pays to “go positive and go first.” Also, remember that people make mistakes. Assuming there is no maliciousness, it pays to forgive.
    Tit For Tat
  • Don’t rely on someone else to give you what you need. Choose what nourishes you every day.
    how to avoid half-heartedness - by Ava - bookbear express
  • I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition
    how to avoid half-heartedness - by Ava - bookbear express
  • The worth of a person’s life lies not in the number of years lived; rather it rests on how well that person has absorbed the lessons of that life, how well that person has come to understand and distill the multiple, messy aspects of the human experience
    Live a life worth living - by Shaun Usher - Letters of Note
  • This is my challenge to you, my sweet girls, to take an ugly tragedy and transform it into a source of beauty, love, strength, courage, and wisdom.
    Live a life worth living - by Shaun Usher - Letters of Note
  • You will understand that nothing lasts forever, not pain, or joy. You will understand that joy cannot exist without sadness. Relief cannot exist without pain. Compassion cannot exist without cruelty. Courage cannot exist without fear. Hope cannot exist without despair. Wisdom cannot exist without suffering. Gratitude cannot exist without deprivation. Paradoxes abound in this life. Living is an exercise in navigating within them.
    Live a life worth living - by Shaun Usher - Letters of Note
  • Life is not fair. You would be foolish to expect fairness, at least when it comes to matters of life and death, matters outside the scope of the law, matters that cannot be engineered or manipulated by human effort, matters that are distinctly the domain of God or luck or fate or some other unknowable, incomprehensible force.
    Live a life worth living - by Shaun Usher - Letters of Note
  • The kindest and most meaningful thing anyone ever says to me is: your mother would be proud of you. Finding a way in my grief to become the woman who my mother raised me to be is the most important way I have honored my mother. It has been the greatest salve to my sorrow. The strange and painful truth is that I’m a better person because I lost my mom young. When you say you experience my writing as sacred what you are touching is the divine place within me that is my mother. Sugar is the temple I built in my obliterated place. I’d give it all back in a snap, but the fact is, my grief taught me…
    Our Stories Survive Us - Cheryl Strayed's Dear Sugar
  • You go on by finding a channel for your love and another for your rage.
    Our Stories Survive Us - Cheryl Strayed's Dear Sugar
  • You knew what you wanted and you acted with purpose and intention. That’s how a person survives and thrives. Your guilt over the situation isn’t some manifestation of the fact that you’re bad and you made a bad choice. Your guilt is a manifestation of this pre-existing shame you carry around that tells you that you belong to other people and your job is to serve them even when you’re unhappy or uninspired or lonely.
    'I Feel Incredibly Guilty About Dumping My Ex!'
  • It means the two of you TOGETHER is not enough for you at this moment in your life.
    'I Feel Incredibly Guilty About Dumping My Ex!'
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    Curius / Onboarding