Love is to be invested in someone’s continual expansion
This is one of the joys and challenges of love: the more skillfully you love someone, the more held, encouraged, and accepted they feel, the more they change.
Love is about being invested in someone’s continual expansion Looking for Alice, part 5 Henrik Karlsson May 20, 2026 1,580 46 371 Share This is the fifth part of a series on relationships begun with “ Looking for Alice ” ( which is about how I met my wife Johanna), “ Dostoevsky as lover ” (about our early years together), “ Relationships are coevolutionary loops ,” and “ When I accept myself as I am, I change .” Housekeeping: for those of you who live in Copenhagen/Malmö, some readers are organizing a meetup on June 6 . You can read more about that and sign up (for free) here . It sounds fun.
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