you will never realize yourself!!! - circe

by frequently asking for advice, we may be doing ourselves a disservice

I’ve recently noticed how much my friends and I reference the words of others when understanding ourselves. A single comment from a friend or even acquaintance about our people-pleasing tendencies, a proclivity for self-deprecation or more and less favorable career prospects can be taken as some truer truth than our self-knowledge. This emerges partly from our fascination with being seen – even if we already know what someone is telling us about ourselves in some buried recess of the mind, it’s pleasurable to feel that you are seen and understood by others. The more salient aspect,…

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