becoming yourself is a social project - by maja

how to let people help you

Jeanie Tomanek I keep thinking about how often the right help arrives through an almost-random conversation. You mention a problem over dinner and a friend says, oh, you should talk to my friend. You describe what you are stuck on and someone tells you, I went through this exact thing. You tell someone what you are trying to create and they say, wait, I think I know the person you need. Suddenly someone has enough context to see the door you were standing beside. But what if you never had that conversation? What if you never happened to mention the problem? What if the person who could…

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