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we expect so much from others because we give so little to ourselves

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needing others to fill what i wouldn’t, revealed about my relationship with myself

We all have a moment when someone disappoints us. You start feeling frustrated, unheard, or emotionally neglected, and at first it feels like the anger is about them. But most of the time, it isn’t. You expected the texts, the reassurance, the effort, the consistency. Meanwhile, you weren’t giving yourself rest, compassion, or patience. This is where unspoken expectations come in. Expecting people to know what you need without saying it. Hoping they’ll fix you, save you, or validate you. Getting hurt when they don’t, even though you never asked. Expectations often come from a place where…

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