How do you find your people, when searching is itself an antipattern? | Kevin Liu
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Why are the cool people so rarely at the obvious venues -- founder hangouts, dating app queues, online meetups and events?
From the archives of posts which are basically reflections and that I might never post at all. Strongly relates to: To Optimize, Don’t Optimize, yet to be published. If you want to meet and talk to cool people, your first thought might be… to try to meet cool people. Like, at a meetup or something, maybe? So then, why are the cool people so rarely at the obvious venues : founder hangouts, dating app queues, online meetups and events? [Note: In the next few examples, I’m going to try to point at some vibes that I sometimes get. Obviously, there are exceptions to each of the following statements
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