interesting and fun - by brit - booritney

you decide what qualifies

I liked New York less than I thought I would. Or, to be more specific, I liked it less than I wish I had. Or, to be as exact as possible, given my purported penchant for places that offer wide-ranging sensory delight on demand, I’m reluctant to admit that I didn’t fall in love with the city because doing so means that I’m not the type of person who belongs in New York, which I feel like I should be. Dennis Xiao writes: ‘Shoulds’ are a cloak we’ve grown used to the weight of. I take this to mean that ‘shoulds’ are so ingrained that we forget we're operating under them. They tend to sound…

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