flâneur

what's stopping you from doing what you want?

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A few years ago, the very simple notion that I am the only person living my own life hadn’t really crossed my mind. There were strong external forces at play, and I tried my best not to disturb them. Made-up fears, other people’s preferences, other people’s vague opinions of how my life should be lived. And if there is one thing that feels as old as time, it’s this. It’s that we will find excuses to not do what we want to do. This pattern comes up again and again in my life, in my friends’ lives; I see it around me constantly and have a little existential crisis until I come back to the same conclusion: You can just go after what you want. And it’s not only that you can, it’s that you have to. Earlier this year I realized I was craving a reinvention. I felt a strong pull towards shifting gears in my career towards following my creative passions more purposely. I always thought that if it is creative, I should just keep it as a hobby. But… why? I have enough people around me and enough

A few years ago, the very simple notion that I am the only person living my own life hadn’t really crossed my mind. There were strong external forces at play, and I tried my best not to disturb them. Made-up fears, other people’s preferences, other people’s vague opinions of how my life should be lived. And if there is one thing that feels as old as time, it’s this. It’s that we will find excuses to not do what we want to do. This pattern comes up again and again in my life, in my friends’ lives; I see it around me constantly and have a little existential crisis until I come back to the same…

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