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I have been pondering the glorification of selflessness, when we are conditioned to equate being likable to being an agreeable, ceaselessly over-accommodatin...
tala's blog 01 Nov, 2025 I have been pondering the glorification of selflessness, when we are conditioned to equate being likable to being an agreeable, ceaselessly over-accommodating person. While we are inherently wired for approval, being liked somehow became some kind of moral achievement. This was probably the most preeminent epiphany (and a slap to my face) I unraveled through therapy and my writing practice. A part of me knew I've carefully curated a digestible version of myself to appease my desire for external validation. At that time, I actually called it "emotional…
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