the toxicity of "the toxic trait" - by Isabel - Mind Mine
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the label doesn't free you from doing the work
Kohada Koheiji from One Hundred Ghost Tales. Colour woodblock, 1833. Something that has been nagging at me lately is how pop culture’s take on the “toxic trait” seems to have given people the impression that just *noticing* a limiting trait in themselves is enough to be freed from its grip on them. Or, said more accurately: awareness frees them from having to do the work required to dissolve it. But the reality is quite the contrary. Awareness, while important, is only the first step to ironing out the behavioural wrinkles that get in our way. The classic healing process goes something…
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