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Confidence Engineering: Or, Metacognitive Therapy For Social-Romantic Anxiety

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"Have you considered just not thinking about this problem?"

[Epistemic status: I’m simultaneously convinced this is life-changing information that also has clinical validation while also suspecting that I might be a crank who should not be trusted. I’m certainly not a therapist. Also, the threat monitoring = bad stuff is mostly assuming that— like I expect most readers of the blog to be— you are someone who has NOT been told historically that you frequently come on too strong or that women feel unsafe around you. Anyway: caveat lector.] [I consider Abandon Hope the most current version of what I discuss here, though tuned for social anxiety in…

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