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These days I crave space to think, to discover, the way someone craves food or sleep after stretches of being deprived. Specifically, I crave that feeling of being able to follow the thread of curiosity, having long days to linger on abstract things, concepts with no direction, no end. I miss being a kid, when you had endless space to discover what you liked. I was rewarded back then for curiosity, nowadays I’m rewarded mostly for efficiency and clarity. Lately I’ve been thinking about compatibility. Which is this amorphous concept that people usually refer to in the context of dating or job searching. I used to have a lot of misconceptions about both. Mostly that you had to be 98% perfectly compatible with someone to even begin dating them. Or that you had to fit a certain job description to a tee to even apply to it. Now my working hypothesis is that you need 70% of core baseline compatibility (things that don’t change) and then the 30% (things that do) evolves over time. You have to

Kyutae Lee These days I crave space to think, to discover, the way someone craves food or sleep after stretches of being deprived. Specifically, I crave that feeling of being able to follow the thread of curiosity, having long days to linger on abstract things, concepts with no direction, no end. I miss being a kid, when you had endless space to discover what you liked. I was rewarded back then for curiosity, nowadays I’m rewarded mostly for efficiency and clarity. Lately I’ve been thinking about compatibility. Which is this amorphous concept that people usually refer to in the context of…

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