Feedback eaters and how to spot them - by Carmen - Altered

When your feedback goes nowhere

The monster “Charlotte” from the anime Puella Magi Madoka Magica. Also known as the “dessert witch,” she has a voracious appetite, and her description tragically reads: “Though she is capable of creating infinite amounts of any dessert she desires, she is unable to make the cheese that she loves most.” There’s a specific genre of person who uses feedback to subsidize their emotional recklessness by placing the burden on others to tell them whenever they have done something wrong instead of reflecting on the patterns in their lives and making appropriate changes. The hostile version of this…

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