Strategy, not self-expression: How to decide what to say when giving feedback
👋 Hey, it’s Wes. Welcome to my weekly newsletter where I share frameworks for becoming a sharper marketer, operator, and founder. If you’re not a subscriber, here’s what you missed this month: How to act like an owner How to think rigorously How to be concise Subscribe to get free access to these posts, and all future posts. Giving constructive feedback can be stressful because it’s often accompanied by internal debate about whether to speak up. What if they get upset? What if they retaliate? What if speaking up makes things worse? These are all valid concerns, which is why I love today’s simple framework for giving feedback. In today’s newsletter, you’ll learn: Why most feedback conversations fail The difference between strategy vs self-expression How to optimize for driving behavior change I originally published a version of this essay in November 2019. If you find it helpful, please consider sharing with your friends and coworkers. Enjoy. Read time: 7 minutes When someone says the
👋 Hey, it’s Wes. Welcome to my weekly newsletter where I share frameworks for becoming a sharper marketer, operator, and founder. If you’re not a subscriber, here’s what you missed this month: How to act like an owner How to think rigorously How to be concise Subscribe to get free access to these posts, and all future posts. Giving constructive feedback can be stressful because it’s often accompanied by internal debate about whether to speak up. What if they get upset? What if they retaliate? What if speaking up makes things worse? These are all valid concerns, which is why I love…
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