you don't get to hate the girl that got you here

she did what she knew how to do at the time

i think one of the most disrespectful things we do to ourselves is talk about our past like it was something to be ashamed of. like the girl we used to be is someone we have to distance ourselves from in order to prove that we’ve grown. like evolution only counts if there’s a little bit of embarrassment attached to it. like healing means saying, “i would never do that now” with a tone that almost feels like rejection. and i get it. because when you grow, there are parts of you that don’t fit anymore. choices you wouldn’t make twice. people you can’t believe you once made space for.…

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• Megha Jain

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