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"working on yourself" for people exactly like me - by Aadil

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Around 17, after my brother gave me a wakeup call for being an arrogant asshole, was the first time I started trying to work on changing the way I was feeling. How I went about the world and the energy I presented, which, for me, felt way more esoteric and confusing than just simply choosing different actions. Some days I think about how I still have so long to go, how I still keep f*cking up and give so much of a f*ck about so many things even though I read that book 10 whole years ago! I keep feeling like I should have it down by now. But then I remember how much I used to beat myself up in my head, how I’d self-isolate for months at a time, how rattled by indecision and self-doubt I was, and decide to take the advice I often give my friends and “give myself some grace”. I have a long way to go, yet I feel that I’ve come a long way still, so I think all the work I’ve put in is worth it when I think about how I used to be. Some of the things I’ve tried over the years are probably real

"working on yourself" for people exactly like me everything I've tried to feel better in my brain Aadil May 24, 2025 20 6 1 Share The first self-help book I read was “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck” at 14. That’s the earliest I can remember trying to consciously change the way I was acting. Around 17, after my brother gave me a wakeup call for being an arrogant asshole, was the first time I started trying to work on changing the way I was feeling . How I went about the world and the energy I presented, which, for me, felt way more esoteric and confusing than just simply choosing different

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