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The Pain and the Glory of Nonmonogamy - by Aella

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I was nineteen, and I met a guy at a party in Idaho; he had sci-fi tattoos along his back, which I found awesome.

I was nineteen, and I met a guy at a party in Idaho; he had sci-fi tattoos along his back, which I found awesome. We became friends; he told me he was something called ‘polyamorous,’ where he’s married but he and his wife still dated other people. I was immediately like, “Oh, that’s obviously what I am too.” It felt like I’d been brought up among women and finally saw a man for the first time; my body knew this was something I was built to be attracted to. Looking back I realized it had always suited me. Once I caught my monogamous boyfriend sexting someone else; his sexting didn’t actually…

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