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today's dating apps and social clubs are doing it wrong

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on community, love, friendship, and healthier design paradigms

There is no shared social context. Without the scaffolding of a shared community, there is no incentive to stay in touch or make an effort to get to know someone beyond your hopes for a romantic connection. You won’t have friends inviting you to the same party, you won’t be attending the same weekly book club, you won’t be bumping into each other randomly. Odds are the only thing that brought the two of you together is that you both downloaded a dating app— otherwise you never would have crossed paths. Some dating apps have attempted to solve this by suggesting more granular tags (eg,…

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