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In September, I asked my friend Jakob to show me how he uses Tinder. Jakob has something of a Protestant work ethic when it comes to swiping; he had amassed 327 matches. But, he said, every single one was boring. Like most dating apps, Tinder is a filter game. Its core game loop is bean sorting: you swipe right and left to decide which pile the beans belong to. Jakob said that at the swiping stage, he only applied the most rudimentary filters, since, “there is no point thinking too hard until you know if it is a match.” But there were other filters. Plenty of them. He had a rule of thumb that he only talked to girls who wrote to him first (to make sure they had agency). And the chat conversations were filters and the dates were filters and the sex, too. One sieve placed after another, to make sure none of the bad beans made it into the good pile. The question repeated was, “Is this the one?” Here’s another way of thinking about making relationships. I’m not sure it is better, but it i
This was either painted by Cy Twombly or my two-year-old and I’m not going to tell you who In September, I asked my friend Jakob to show me how he uses Tinder. Jakob has something of a Protestant work ethic when it comes to swiping; he had amassed 327 matches. But, he said, every single one was boring. Like most dating apps, Tinder is a filter game. Its core game loop is bean sorting: you swipe right and left to decide which pile the beans belong to. Jakob said that at the swiping stage, he only applied the most rudimentary filters, since, “there is no point thinking too hard until you…
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