how to tell if the life you’re living is actually yours

on quiet misalignment, inherited dreams, and the strange ache of having a life that looks fine but does not feel like home

i think there are some seasons in life where nothing is technically wrong, but something still feels slightly off. not crisis-off. not oh my goodness everything-is-burning-off. just this quiet, difficult-to-explain feeling that you are living inside a life that makes sense on paper but does not fully feel like yours. you are doing the things. answering the emails. seeing the people. going to the gym. making the plans. keeping up with the version of yourself other people seem to understand. and still, somewhere underneath all of it, there is a small voice asking: is this actually what i want?…

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• Alicia Wang
• Dillon Nguyen

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