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find novelty through commitment - by Isabel - Mind Mine

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Commitment is a portal inwards. Through commitment, we meet ourselves more deeply. The thing we are committing to—whether a place to live, a romantic relationship, a job, a big decision, or anything else that requires us to forego a set of intangible options for a singular tangible one—is nothing more than a canvas for us to create a deeper commitment to ourselves through. I’ve noticed that most people who struggle with commitment seem to think that it represents the death of novelty, optionality, and expansiveness. That when you commit, you stop trying new things—you cease to explore. But the secret about commitment is: it offers everything that optionality promises, but with more depth and dimension. When we commit to something, we allow ourselves to surrender and feel safe within our commitment. Through commitment, we expand deeper into our feelings, because we are given a container to relax into, to fill entirely, that lets us explore ourselves with more vigour and curiosity. Commi

Commitment is a portal inwards. Through commitment, we meet ourselves more deeply. The thing we are committing to—whether a place to live, a romantic relationship, a job, a big decision, or anything else that requires us to forego a set of intangible options for a singular tangible one—is nothing more than a canvas for us to create a deeper commitment to ourselves through. I’ve noticed that most people who struggle with commitment seem to think that it represents the death of novelty, optionality, and expansiveness. That when you commit, you stop trying new things—you cease to explore. But…

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