chemistry needs contact - by Jesse - fish in a pool
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predicting love, calculating commitment
It seems perfectly natural to deliberate decisions of commitment. Should you commit to a PhD? Should you marry him? Should you start a blog? After all, once you commit, it better be something you like. A commitment is both the promise and the following action. But why do we assume that order? Isn't it weird that we make most important life choices before knowing if we'll enjoy the consequences? We sign a job offer with the ignorance-stained ink, we gift our hearts based on what could be instead of what is. It makes sense to start giving after you fall in love, but by then it’s too late -…
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