in defense of what do you do?
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actually i think asking people what they do in SF isn’t that bad (even good)
in defense of what do you do? My Notebook # my take # reflection 8 in defense of what do you do? 2026-05-04 · 8 min read actually i think asking people what they do in SF isn’t that bad (even good) Over the past year, it’s become more common to make fun of San Francisco as a place where people start conversations with “What do you do?” or “What are you working on?” instead of more normal questions like the weather, politics, or whatever else. x.com I don’t know how hot this take is, but I’m extremely pro asking what someone is doing, working on, or (the lighter version) what they’ve been think
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