What can replace the “what do you do” question at a party? – Shreyas Hariharan
You go to a party, there’s loud music, you recognize a few familiar faces, there’s a bit of hugging and “how are you doing”. You go to the bar, try to get the attention of the bartender, and pour y…
April 2, 2022 What can replace the “what do you do” question at a party? You go to a party, there’s loud music, you recognize a few familiar faces, there’s a bit of hugging and “how are you doing”. You go to the bar, try to get the attention of the bartender, and pour you a drink. Soon, you’re standing alone, no one’s talking to you. A stranger comes up to you and says, “hi I’m —”, “what do you do?”. Artist: Joe Vandello The problem with the “what do you do” question is that it typically leads to a generic, status-driven answer, rather than a personal, authentic one. “What do you do?” “I
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