the fall of the wife trial | arielle lok
in the summer of 2023, i moved into a stranger’s apartment for 5 days and began the first edition of what would be known as a “wife trial”. the wife trial involves spending every waking and nocturnal hour with a stranger and getting to know them deeper with the primary purpose of: at the end of the week, he had cried in my arms, i deep-cleaned his whole kitchen, and we had an incomprehensible bond for two people who had never met nor shared any mutuals with. although our time was fun, we also quickly deduced that we could not see ourselves marrying each other. our underlying values (which were covered on nights 2 and 3) were not compatible. the most pressing issues in our lives differed vastly in scope and it was hard to find empathy for one another. our ultimate goals, familial, career, and personal growth had next to no overlap and it made itself known fast. our days were full of doing the mundane; i made him drive me to walmart to buy hand soap because he had been using diluted dish
the fall of the wife trial | arielle lok go back 19122023 - the fall of the wife trial in the summer of 2023, i moved into a stranger's apartment for 5 days and began the first edition of what would be known as a "wife trial". the wife trial involves spending every waking and nocturnal hour with a stranger and getting to know them deeper with the primary purpose of: 'testing' to see if they are someone you could spend the rest of your life building a future with via shared values/habits and similarly to how many animals adapt to attract mates by showing off their best features, the wife trial
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