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Mistaking oversharing for vulnerability cost me a relationship

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And learning the difference between the two saved me another.

Last year, eager for post-vaccine reunions, I met up with someone I admire. Pandemic disrupted the natural rhythms that held us together before, and I was relieved that we remained connected. I was excited to spend time together and I treated our conversation like one with a best friend. I shared intimate details about my depression, loneliness, and heartbreak. But— this wasn’t a best friend. The moment we parted ways, a flashback of our conversation barreled through my brain. Oh no. No, no, no. I already regretted most of it. I didn’t regret my honesty, but I did regret how much I shared.…

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