love, conflict, and opening up your heart in relationships

receiving love is harder than giving it

openness receiving love is harder than giving it Elaine Feb 12, 2025 87 8 19 Share Cy Twombly, The Rose (IV) , 2008 When asked what he’s learned from editing the Modern Love column for 20 years, Daniel Jones said , “There’s kind of a dividing line between people who continue to open their hearts and those who shut down. And one is the path to happiness, and one is the path to unhappiness and regret.” I heard this on The Daily podcast back in December, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. It’s rather unfortunate that our upbringing has such a profound impact on our relationship patterns

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