What's stopping you? - by David R. MacIver
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Every time you discover something you want hurts, and learn not to do it as a result, you become smaller. This is bad for you. Stop it.
Some of my current arc words are “don't make yourself smaller”. I spent a lot of time doing this. I don't want to say it was always a mistake. Sometimes it's necessary for survival. But in aggregate, it was very much a mistake. There are various things that I can point to from when I started turning things around, but one of them was realising that I wasn’t fooling anyone with my masking, and everyone realised that I was much weirder than I was trying to present at being, and the people who actually stuck around didn’t care or liked it, so what was the point in trying to pass as normal?1…
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