Self-sabotage starts as self-protection - by Layla Shaikley

Optimism isn't a strategy, repetition is

I was recently listening to a friend vent about someone who mistreats her and speaks with a nasty tone. I was trying to explain that the person with the tone is clearly unregulated — and can’t get a grip of their big feelings, even at their big age. And that sucks for him, because his life will be harder than it needs to be. Many people lack a well-regulated brain. And without a well-regulated brain, you will not have an extraordinary life. Being overwhelmed, mean, chronically overthinking, and emotionally volatile are costing you more than you realize. Because those feelings get in the…

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