a two-in-one - by Lilian Caylee - beauty and terror

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against niceness I’ve thought, talked, and written endlessly about my values. It’s meaningless, though, to claim that I value objectively good things, like generosity or kindness or curiosity. It’s in the tradeoffs that I’ve learned the most about myself. My friend, Tiffany, initially brought up the tension between loyalty and authenticity—what do you do when staying loyal to someone prevents you from staying true to yourself? Today, I’m thinking about the tension between niceness (not to be confused with kindness) and authenticity.

I’ve thought, talked, and written endlessly about my values. It’s meaningless, though, to claim that I value objectively good things, like generosity or kindness or curiosity. It’s in the tradeoffs that I’ve learned the most about myself. My friend, Tiffany, initially brought up the tension between loyalty and authenticity—what do you do when staying loyal to someone prevents you from staying true to yourself? Today, I’m thinking about the tension between niceness (not to be confused with kindness) and authenticity. Authenticity, integrity, kindness, and curiosity are my highest values.…

a two-in-one - by Lilian Caylee - beauty and terror

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