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the life-changing magic of being direct - by Ava

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Walter Swennen, Lights of Moke, 2017 I’ve been on a multi-year journey of becoming someone who’s direct. I very much grew up as a member of Guess Culture, not Ask Culture. The end result was that I got really good at guessing. Which meant I could with 90%+ accuracy predict whether I was going to get a yes or no and then I would only ask someone when I was sure I’d get a yes. Which meant I did a lot of observing, and waiting, which is probably why I became a writer (your neuroses shape your vocation, guys, so it’s not bad to be fucked up). However, my beliefs around this have changed a lot…

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