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The Psychology of Why Some People Take Breakups Harder Than Others - The Atlantic

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Part of it depends on whether they believe personality is fixed or constantly changing.

It’s a question that often plagues people after a painful breakup: What went wrong? As they work to figure out the answer, people typically create new relationship stories, analyzing the events leading up to the breakup and using them to build a cohesive narrative. In some cases, this type of storytelling can be positive, helping people to make sense of—and come to terms with—painful things that happen to them. Other times, though, the storytelling process can be a negative one, compounding pain rather than easing it. My colleague Carol Dweck and I research why some people are haunted by the g

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