Looking vs. Feeling Beautiful - by Heather Havrilesky
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Clear eyes, wide open hearts, can't lose.
Blue Morning Glory (1938) by Georgia O’Keeffe Around the time I turned 40, I faced a major reckoning with my looks and my age. I felt old and unattractive (lol I assure you readers, this was an illusion!) because the way I moved through my life was all about self-protection and fear: I was afraid of getting older, which is like being afraid of time or the weather or death or any other inevitable natural force. Which means it’s also like being afraid of life itself! Trying to stop time or turn it backwards or prevent endings or delay reckonings or hide in your most rigid, fearful notions of…
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