50 things I know - by Cate Hall - Useful Fictions

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You are allowed to care about people who don’t care about you, and even people who dislike you. The way you feel about someone else can be totally decoupled from how they feel about you. In fact, uncovering your capacity to love people who will never fully reciprocate it is the definition of grace. If you’re unsure how to have better opinions, try just having fewer of them for a start. The most dangerous people have an exquisitely tuned sense of just how much they can get away with when it comes to how they treat different people, so pay special attention when others have sharply diverging…

50 things I know - by Cate Hall - Useful Fictions

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