how to help someone change without going crazy - by Ava
It is possible for people to change a lot. It is possible to help them change. Here are some of my thoughts on how to keep your head while they’re losing theirs.
how to help someone change without going crazy Ava Jan 19, 2026 ∙ Paid 151 3 17 Share Emil Nolde, Heidehaus, 1900 It is possible for people to change a lot. It is possible to help them change. Here are some of my thoughts on how to keep your head while they’re losing theirs that I’ve picked up from coaching as well as years of experience with friends and partners. Nervous system capacity is the constraint, not logic. You can explain something to someone a thousand times and it probably will not address the fundamental issue, which is that they’re paralyzed by fear and guilt. The bottleneck is
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