How ‘Should’ Makes Us Stupid — And How to Get Smart Again | by Jane Elliott PhD | Curious | Feb, 2023 | Medium
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When we say we ‘should’ do something, we frame our goal in a way that makes change less likely. Here’s how to motivate differently.
The Internal Resistance Files 6 min read Feb 26, 2023 -- As soon as we tell ourselves we should be doing something, we turn off the part of our brains that can help us actually do it. Here’s why it happens, and what to do instead. Press enter or click to view image in full size This is your brain on ‘should’. Image credit: SuratWin, iStock If you’re not sure if you tend toward a deficit mindset, all you have to do is pay attention to how often you tell yourself you should have already met some external standard of behaviour. If the optimist thinks the glass is half full and the…
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