Do you know your default shape?

Notes on a concept we've been exploring together

There’s something odd about human behavior. It’s not quite literally true, but it’s close enough to be astonishing: How people respond to anything is how they respond to everything. People have a default perceptual lens that gets applied to everything from world affairs to their marriage. A default shape. Like, “friction is a sign that something bad is happening,” or, “I need to figure out what’s reliable so I don’t get taken advantage of.” The default lens isn’t necessarily wrong in any particular case — it’s just interesting the way it seems to apply to everything. This way of looking…

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