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I love being in the background. Can I lead? - by Phuong Do

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Tonight I had dinner with two coworkers, one of whom commented that I tend to sit back, listen, and observe rather than talk. It’s true. In general, I am way more comfortable talking and sharing in an 1-1 setting. Whenever there are three or more people in a group, I immediately default to being in the background. This is a behavior or trait that I am still trying to understand. A question I have for myself is: Can someone who loves and defaults to being in the background like me lead and influence others? Certainly, yes! Most of the time, instead of leading and influencing through words to a big group, I do it through actions with each individual person. I make sure everyone on the team feels supported and comfortable by texting everyone individually. I send appreciation through individual texts. I create systems and structures on Notion so that everyone can easily navigate and enhance their work. I love being in the background and creating a strong support system for others. This is

Tonight I had dinner with two coworkers, one of whom commented that I tend to sit back, listen, and observe rather than talk. It’s true. In general, I am way more comfortable talking and sharing in an 1-1 setting. Whenever there are three or more people in a group, I immediately default to being in the background. This is a behavior or trait that I am still trying to understand. A question I have for myself is: Can someone who loves and defaults to being in the background like me lead and influence others? Certainly, yes! Most of the time, instead of leading and influencing through…

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