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Lovelessness is the Cause of Insecurity - by Sherry

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To constantly live in the eyes of others is a form of torment. If we tell a joke and they laugh, our egos get a boost and we grow confident in our likeability, “I’m a fun person, people enjoy being around me.” If we go to greet our coworkers and they give us the side eye — maybe because they had a bad morning at home — we suddenly question if we did something wrong, and our self-esteem spirals into a whirlwind of self-doubt and feelings of worthlessness. Ideally, we do not want our self-worth to be tied to how others think of us, ridicule us, judge us, praise us, or admire us. That’s why…

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