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Push and pull - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder

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an anecdote on the art of good listening

The conversation looked something like this: there was a group of us in a circle, and one of us was talking about a job he wants but doesn’t feel qualified for. Let’s call him Tom. For a while I silently observed the back and forth between Tom and the rest of the group. Tom goes “I’m scared to apply”; the group goes but you want it so bad; Tom goes “my chances are so low”; group goes you’ll regret it if you don’t try. Tom wasn’t budging on his resistance to submitting an application. After several rounds of this I intervened and said, what if we stopped trying to push down Tom’s feelings and…

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