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the illusion of relationship security

Catherine Murphy, Comforter, 2007 A big part of my early thirties has been about learning which ladders I have no interest in climbing and accepting the shift in identity that comes with this realization. Next to the corporate ladder is the relationship ladder, with milestones like become exclusive, move in together, open a joint bank account, get married, have kids. The two enable each other, promising the vaunted security of liberal capitalism: your corporate job provides for your family, and your family compels you to work harder at your job so you can earn a bigger paycheck. When M and…

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