Erik Torenberg on X: "Related: There are two contradictory ideas that we're supposed to hold at the same time: "Happiness is reality minus expectations" and "Shoot for the moon" ... "Raise the aspirations of others" i.e. We're supposed to have high expectations and low expectations at the same…" / X
To view keyboard shortcuts, press question mark View keyboard shortcuts Home Explore 1 Notifications Messages Lists Bookmarks Profile More Post Eli @eli_qian Post See new posts Conversation Priya Rose liked Erik Torenberg @eriktorenberg Related: There are two contradictory ideas that we're supposed to hold at the same time: "Happiness is reality minus expectations" and "Shoot for the moon" ... "Raise the aspirations of others" i.e. We're supposed to have high expectations and low expectations at the same time. The positive is you're more likely to accomplish more than you would otherwise. The negative is that you might be unhappier if you don't meet your expectations. "Strong expectations, weakly held" is a way to thread the needle. Have high expectations when you have agency over a situation -- and truly believe it -- and then when you no longer have agency over the situation, immediately phase shift and recalibrate expectations, either altering the goal or the time duration or
Erik Torenberg @eriktorenberg Related: There are two contradictory ideas that we're supposed to hold at the same time: "Happiness is reality minus expectations" and "Shoot for the moon" ... "Raise the aspirations of others" i.e. We're supposed to have high expectations and low expectations at the same time. The positive is you're more likely to accomplish more than you would otherwise. The negative is that you might be unhappier if you don't meet your expectations. "Strong expectations, weakly held" is a way to thread the needle. Have high expectations when you have agency over a situation --
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