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At a college internship at IMG academy coaching basketball, a player around my age once told me “I can’t tell if you’re 20 or 40”. I was 20. Now I’m 35. And I’m sharing a list of 35 things I would have told/reminded my 20 year old self. Most of them are simple, but hard. This list is focused on being happy. I’ve separately written pieces on career advice. This list is also a work in progress. Take responsibility (the ability to respond) This doesn’t mean that everything that has happened to you is a result of your actions. It means that you develop an ability to respond to whatever happens to you, even if you don’t control the consequences of your actions. It means exerting maximal agency towards the things you can directly change (your behavior), and maximum acceptance towards things you can influence but not control (external circumstances, other people’s behavior). No excuses. Don’t make some person, some event, or your parents the excuse for your actions going forward, even if they

35 35 bits of advice for my younger self Erik Torenberg Feb 13, 2025 334 19 61 Share At a college internship at IMG academy coaching basketball, a player around my age once told me “I can’t tell if you’re 20 or 40”. I was 20. Now I’m 35. And I’m sharing a list of 35 things I would have told/reminded my 20 year old self. Most of them are simple, but hard. This list is focused on being happy. I’ve separately written pieces on career advice . This list is also a work in progress. Take responsibility (the ability to respond) This doesn’t mean that everything that has happened to you is a result of

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