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Why Does Dating Men Make Me Feel Like Shit? | by Emma Lindsay | Medium

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I woke up this morning with this terrible fucking feeling, and I was like I know this feeling. How do I know this feeling? Where is this horrible feeling from? And then I was like, oh yeah — this is that feeling from back when I had boyfriends. I haven’t had one in over 5 years, and I kind of assumed that those old weird insecure feelings I used to have were something I just matured out of. But, nope. Apparently what happened is that I stopped dating dudes. What does this feeling feel like? Well, like shame mostly. Like I am not worthy of being loved because of how I look. Like, that any man who is with me is only settling because he can’t get what he really wants. But… yeah, I think shame really covers it. I am ashamed of how I look. I am ashamed of my body. I feel almost physically sub-human, as if any man who looks at my naked body without saying something cruel is doing me a kindness. And I didn’t used to be ashamed. When I was dating women, and when I was not dating, I didn’t real

Press enter or click to view image in full size Jessica Carpenter Sex Dating Heteronormatividade Why Does Dating Men Make Me Feel Like Shit? For the first time in years, I find myself feeling ugly. What changed was that I started dating men. Emma Lindsay 10 min read · Feb 17, 2017 -- 293 Listen Share I woke up this morning with this terrible fucking feeling, and I was like I know this feeling. How do I know this feeling? Where is this horrible feeling from? And then I was like, oh yeah — this is that feeling from back when I had boyfriends. I haven’t had one in over 5 years, and I kind of assu

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